I got involved with a guy who has a girlfriend. I just learned she's in the hospital for an attempt.

She sounds highly abusive. And while yes, of course helping him to cheat was wrong, it sounds like she has a history of threatening self-harm or suicide. I don't ever want to downplay someone's suicidal ideation, but it is entirely possible that her attempt was another form of manipulation.

I think you should be aware from now on that when someone details that they are in an abusive relationship, you are likely going to be placing them at greater risk of danger/further abuse if you cheat with them. I am worried about his safety as well now that she knows.

If someone is being abused, you can be there to support them and share resources with them, but cheating with them is dangerous for them.

I think you should just leave him entirely alone at this point. If you contact him it could make things even worse.

I hope he will be alright.

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