Thank you. I will remember all of that.

My mom and I have healing to do and I think this will help her tremendously. My mom often used me as a confidant and would tell me inappropriate things about the family to justify her hatred of them and then tell me I was the only reason she stayed in the marriage. Told me constantly I was the reason for that sacrifice and it made me feel so guilty. She would even leave to go back to China for months-a year at a time just to get away. I was a really sad and scared kid as a result. I didn’t realize most of her issues with my dad stemmed back to my grandma and her constantly stepping all over my mom and their marriage until my dad became ill and all the drama came out.

My grandma didn’t want to go to my uncle’s because my uncle talks back to her when she tries to pull the same shit on my aunt. As he should.

A mean mother in law can really ruin a marriage and several lives for a while.