I'm a single woman and I never understand when people say "single women are the happiest". I do think it's true in some ways, like being at peace and not having to pick up the slack (mental load and all)... that's true. Plus, some more old school men never learned how to cook or clean, and I personally don't wanna do that for someone. You can go find your wife in SEA if that's what your #1 priority is and you don't wanna learn.

Personally, my issue is not being able to find men to commit to me, but more like where I live, men have no clue how to even approach women IRL. It's kind of sad actually. I'm not American, btw, I think American men do have those skills far more than men here do. The common complaint here is how women feel all the women here are pretty (lol no, not true, but I think it's an insecurity thing) but mostly that men don't know how to make them feel beautiful, which is a valid complaint. I've been checked out, approached, spoken to, but far less than in other places (far far less than in Europe or the US). It does eventually get to you. But if I go out and about, at least one good looking guy checks me out every day. I'm definitely not the type of woman who wants all men to leave me alone - I enjoy feeling feminine and I like talking to men I find attractive, just like men enjoy talking to women they find attractive.

There's just something off about the dynamics here.

I also personally have dated the supposed top 10-20%, they are within reach for me personally. But I know what it's like to date someone other women are desperate for and it's fucking annoying, it made me straight up hate women. lol. He also felt that way about men with me so I guess we both felt it.