Guy finds out how wife is cheating, hires a private investigator, gives play by play.

I know he used an alt account, but I really hope he receives my PM.

Maybe I should just post it here, in case he sees this. I can't possibly begin to explain how much I feel for the dude and what memories reading that brought back for me.

Just in case this can help him or anyone else, here goes....

Just wanted to say that I feel for you. I went through something similar, only there was no PI....I did all the investigation myself and I know the actual physical pain you can feel when you find out something like that. There's no other advice I can say that someone else hasn't offered. All I can tell you is that now, almost 2 years after my divorce was finalized, it still hurts, but it's NOTHING like i used to feel. It does get better. I promise. It took years after me finding out all of the ugly details for my marriage to completely come to an end.

If you need someone to talk to, I'm here.

Take care of yourself, bud. Remember to eat, try to sleep, drink your water, walk outside once in a while.

Not too long after I started to realize my whole life as I knew it was about to be over, I saw this movie and heard this quote. I never forgot it and I can say it's one of the truer things that has ever been said. I hope one day it helps you:

"I understand feeling as small and as insignificant as humanly possible. And how it can actually ache in places you didn't know you had inside you. And it doesn't matter how many new haircuts you get, or gyms you join, or how many glasses of chardonnay you drink with your girlfriends... you still go to bed every night going over every detail and wonder what you did wrong or how you could have misunderstood. And how in the hell for that brief moment you could think that you were that happy. And sometimes you can even convince yourself that he'll see the light and show up at your door. And after all that, however long all that may be, you'll go somewhere new. And you'll meet people who make you feel worthwhile again. And little pieces of your soul will finally come back. And all that fuzzy stuff, those years of your life that you wasted, that will eventually begin to fade."

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