u/Shastaw2006 was a hero and copy and pasted the original post further down in the original post's comments. Repasting it here:
"I'm sitting in the waiting room typing this on my phone. My daughter was born ten minutes ago and I haven't laid eyes on her.
My wife Anna I have been together for six years, married for four. Before we even got pregnant we'd discussed who we would want present at the birth and my wife's answer was always the same: no one but us. I always told her that my mom would want to be there, that it would mean a lot to her. My wife always came back with "it's not about your mom, it's about me and what my body will go through, it's about delivering a healthy child, and it's about us becoming parents." I tried to understand but I knew my mom would want to be here.
My mom and my wife get along really well. My mom absolutely adores my wife and showers her with gifts and affection. It makes me really happy to see them together so I just can't understand why my wife didn't want my mom here today. When she went into labor she told me not to call anyone. She said we would make all the phone calls once the baby arrived and she (my wife) had rested and was up for visitors. I told her it was selfish to delay other people getting to meet the baby just because she's tired and disheveled but she was in labor so we didn't really get to hash it out.
At one point during the labor I left the room and called my mom to tell her the baby was coming. Of course she drove right over to the hospital. When she got here she found the delivery room and came in, all smiles and happy as can be. But my wife flipped her shit. She started shrieking and demanding that my mom and I both leave. The nurses forces us out. I only know that my daughter is here because one of the nurses came out to tell me.
I'm so hurt and so is my mom. I missed the birth of my child because my wife was being selfish. My mother is heartbroken and keeps asking why my wife hates her. I don't know what to tell her. How can I even begin to remedy this situation? How do I talk to my wife about her behavior today?
TL;DR- my wife threw me and my mother out of the delivery room. We're both hurt. What do I do?"