Guy shamed publicly at PyCon loses job (but PyCon not really to blame)

This is my biggest fear in life.

Back story, when I was fourteen years old, an aunt, wife of one of my uncle, started flirting with me, whenever we two were alone. What you expect from a fourteen years old? She used to flirt and tease, while I was bit shy but started to smile. Then one summer day, I was at my uncle's home, I was in kitchen for water, she she was flirting and getting bit physical, as I was going out of kitchen, I hugged her from behind (did not touched her breast or anything, just a hug) for like one second and ran from kitchen to play outside with my cousins.

When we came back, it was a big scene there with all relatives. I was shot down and shamed that I made sexual assault and what-not. In short, life was destroyed. I had no defense against a group up respectable woman. I was "less" punishment because I was 14. But got "stamped" for life and avoided by others.

Some years later, she tried flirting with neighbor's son who was in early 20s. And it became another incident. Few years later, she did with another neighbor's teenage son. After like 20 years, people might have realized that why it is all happening with her? People might have realized maybe she is at fault. However, her husband, to this day, stand by her.

I don't know about others, but I have been damaged forever. Tarnished history. Even after realizing maybe she might be at fault, people still see me like someone who is a sex offender. I make habit to stay reserve with women and keep a distance. No jokes, no compliments, nothing like that. Secondly, if I come to a situation where I might be alone with a woman, I just get out of that situation whether it's work related or any where else. I just don't want to repeat it. I might get away with less punishment because I was 14 at that time, but next time as I am now in my 30s, I'll be crucified with jail time and destroy my career.

Not to mention, years of depression and keeping telling myself "I am not a monster".

Imagine, if this Beavis (in this article) was not married or have no children? Or what if his wife divorced him and take the children? No job, no family, no kids, no home. With deep depression, suicide looks much better option especially when you have no way to reboot your life. Because life is not a linux kernel to which you can apply patch and boot to fix problem.

People on Reddit has repeated it many times that they have never seen a femanazi in real life. Feminist extremist doesn't wear some special makeup or wear some special dress. They are not always ready to burn men at stakes. They look same as any beautiful person with innocent face. What goes in someone's mind, we'll never know. It's the time and situation, when they show their true colors.

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