I don't think its shallow for wanting to have a partner with similar interests? Idk...it's something I personally would look for. It doesn't mean I want an exact clone of myself (god nooooooooooo one of me is fucking bad enough). I don't fear being challenged or anything like that. I just feel like I mesh better with those who have similar interests. Not to to say that my interests/hobbies make up my entire personality or anything. I've been that friend who took in interest in other ppls...uh interests/hobbies and never had any reciprocation because they didn't understand nor care, which sucks a lot. I also don't want to deal with the judgement from my someone who doesn't share at least some of my interests.

I guess my point originally was that I don't think guys care nearly enough about a girls interests/personality, as long as she's nice to look at it really doesn't matter. I've heard advice in this group and some dating groups that women who have a hard time finding men should focus on cultivating more interests and acting like you real know your shit (especially male oriented ones) because apparently men find it attractive when a women knows a lot about sports, games or cars etcetc. I think thats bullshit. It's only a bonus if you're attractive. If you're average or below it doesn't matter that much.