For me personally as I am not giving into negative emotions like jealousy or hate or anger, I would not want to know but feel my partner and I are so transparent, that we tell each other anything yet we keep very separate very busy lives and our time together is phenomenal. I have guys approaching me even on this site (F47) where they cannot even see me and my response to them is that I don’t wish to chat as I respect him too much to do that to him and would hope he would treat me with the same respect. But we started as a NSA relationship-something I have never done before (after a 20 year marriage). I thought he would be long gone and a year later, every minute together is better and he is truly a man I respect and don’t care what OP think as we have kept off all social media and all photos of us are in our phones. OP like to tend to your business - your business is between you and him. I just show up with a smile and enjoy. It is better in every way than my absolutely perfect 20 year marriage. Don’t give into little things and concentrate on whether or not he makes your life better and enjoy. Be confident and fulfill his needs wants and desires and he will yours - let the man chase you and let him lead.