I think there's clearly some personal attachment to you for this issue and that has nothing to do with this situation. I never once said anything like blame or shame and I wouldn't support doing that to someone in a relationship. Don't put words in my mouth or twist what I said. I'm a fan of healthy communication, sex, and reciprocal effort in a relationship. That doesn't seem to be the case here.

I'm quite aware that every man is different. I also never said we were dealing with men who had healthy libidos. That's something you assumed. What I merely commented on was someone list's about what could be going on. If a girlfriend brought this same issue to me, I would have offered a similar list. That's all. I wouldn't instantly assume porn and masturbation were to blame.

As a woman, I've also found increased pleasure from slowing down masturbation and porn habits while being sexually active with a partner. I've also gone crazy on porn/masturbation while with a partner. Since sex drive is hormone-based it will increase and decrease accordingly. All of this varies from person to person. While you may be able to masturbate eleventy times a week then have great sex with a partner, that may not be the case for another man with a completely different testosterone level and medical history.