Guys... help me know what to do when you're limp please...

The kissing, focusing away from the dick itself and focusing on foreplay etc are all good. Another thing that helped me, prior to seeking pharmaceutical help, was an enthusiastic change in direction from the other side. What I mean is, when it wasn’t working exactly how planned instead of continuing to try and get it hard, she smiled, grabbed my neck and pulled me down, playfully said “I guess your tongue is gonna have to tap in” and then she laid back and nudged head down.

Done with a playful, enthusiastic attitude it takes the disappointment away, and completely refocuses the mind. And wouldn’t you know, 5 minutes in to giving oral the mind had a chance to relax and the excitement grew and so did the penis. Like a magic trick it came back to life and everything moved forward. And even if it hadn’t, I was able to get in to the giving part so much there would have been some satisfaction instead of just disappointment.

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