Guys who are shy, awkward, unconfident, etc. but still date amazing women - how do they do it? What gives?

I don't have the greatest social skills, in my personal opinion, and I don't think I'm crazy good looking, but I do okay with women as far as the initial hookup goes. You mentioned dating, though, and I run into a snag. I can't seem to escape the "fwb-zone" or "fuckbuddy zone" - I try to date beautiful women and I end up really liking them, but they just hit me up every few weeks to "hang out", and it's not a date.

So I can't speak for dating, but I can speak for the initial hookup or whatever. Please don't take this as a brag post, because believe me I'm here for a reason, I can't cultivate a healthy relationship anymore and I really want to. Anyway, I'm probably a pretty average guy looks-wise, maybe 5'9 on a good day, and I'm not all smooth and charming or whatever, not socially retarded but maybe a touch on the awkward, introverted side of things.

I think about why I even get girls at all, and I got to talking to the last confusingly attractive girl I was with about how it happened and what she saw in me and I think maybe I have a better idea. She approached me, and was very nervous to do so, or so she said. She was afraid of rejection. Weird, because she's like a 9, for real. Anyway, why would she be nervous around me? She said "I thought you might think I wasn't smart enough for you". I'm an intelligent guy, and most of my thoughts and ideas are on the intellectual side. I love knowledge and hate misinformation. If I hear someone say something I know to be incorrect, I will say something. If I'm right and I know it and I know why, then I will butt heads with anyone who disagrees with me and this sometimes leads to me being the lone "antagonist" in a social situation. I also come across as very much a smartass, even though I'm a nice person. I think women respect this, and maybe they like that you are willing to stand up for yourself in any situation if you know you're right. I also think they're attracted to someone who is willing to go against the entire group - and win. Sure, it's just intellectual, but it's something. I think it boils down to being "intriguing" to women, or at least that's how she described it to me. You can be a dominant personality on many levels - physical, social, etc. Everyone is good at something, and if you embrace whatever that is, women will see you as a winner if that topic ever comes up. You guys talk about being an "alpha" and it's kind of like that. I think you have to find the niche in which you naturally become the "alpha" and just occupy and own that niche.

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