Took a lot of trial and error. At 22, I made a Tinder profile and just shot the shit with people.

In the mean time, I got a job as a telemarketer.

The surprisingly positive responses from matches and costumers led me to bring a bit of the banderous personality, I'd developed into real life, which 3 month later resulted in me getting a forthright girl to score me, at the theatre I was temping at.

This kinda catapulted me into the quite tumultuous phase that I'm, arguably, still in, with a lot of experimenting with different partners; partly trying to figure out what I like in partners, and what I need; partly trying to rid myself self of the disbelief in people being able to genuinely like me.