I had a very big argument with my mom & her partner and I don’t know what to do

Hi I’m not sure why this popped up for me but I wanted to comment because I haven’t seen anyone else yet. Just from an outsiders perspective it’s really cool that you have evaluated the situation the way you have, and maybe what behaviors led to the situation. However you’re a teenager and sometimes parents can feel disrespected by their teens, etc. especially when they’re being pushy

Yet I don’t believe you were the worst-behaved individual involved here. My mom used to slap me and be pretty shitty to me as as a kid. No one should ever slap anyone. That was way too far. It’s completely unacceptable. I don’t care what happened, physically lashing out is ridiculous.

Your mom and step dad were both pretty out of line with their reactions, likely due to alcohol.

To remedy this you could simply share with your mom through text maybe exactly what you typed here, the parts where you said “I did xyz which I understand was frustrating and looking back maybe I should’ve handled it differently. In the future I will do so and think back to this situation to try to prevent it. But mom, slapping me? That was way too far. I hope with my offering of peace and mending with this message that you will also apologize for hitting me, and when you feel upset and angry in the future to please think about this situation and never hit me again.” And maybe your step dad could apologize as well for being rude.

I hope things get better and blow over. I’ve had some really, really shitty arguments with my parents in the past (even my easy going dad and my weird step mom) and with time and conversation we’ve returned to our regular selves.

Lastly I want to say I’m in my early 30s now, and I want to share that when I was a teen I cut my arms up pretty bad when I got upset. I did a lot. I’ve had to spend the rest of my entirety of my life having to explain what the scars are, and not wanting to share this piece of vulnerability with anyone. I don’t like I that strangers can see that I got pissed and hurt myself anytime I wear anything besides long sleeves. I hate having to explain it to every lover when they inevitably see them and wonder then if they think I’m nuts, and are worried about commitment now. I would do anything to get rid of these damn stupid ass teenage emotional slash marks. I regret them so much.

If you can resist self harm, please read my experience and try not to. It’s a temporary band aid and a lifetime of embarrassing explanations.

Best wishes to you ❤️

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