Why is Hair Pulling and Choking (aggression) in Sex the Assumed Norm w/o Consent?

You’re all strangers to each other and don’t give each other the benefit of getting to know each other’s sexual interests.

There is not much reason to care that much about another person, let alone their boundaries if you’re just a temporal lay. You’re two individuals coming together to get off- y’all have no obligation to each other at the end of the day.

I can’t imagine anyone putting forth effort to learn kinks on a one night stand. But a regular relationship? Sure.

If this is something you’ve encountered more than once, and you think you will continue to encounter, you need to start laying the ground rules ahead of time. You cannot expect anyone (man or woman) to read your mind or be into the same thing you’re into. They might not even think of it as out of the ordinary, but you do, so you need to do something about it.

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