Do you harbor any anger/resentment toward your parents for things they did that greatly impacted the course of your life? How do you let it go?

I haven't really brought it up with him because I'm afraid it will only end in a conflict. I'm constantly having to brush my feelings aside to keep the peace with him. My mom is kind of the same way. They had an agreement in their divorce that once I turned 18, he would handle everything and that is how he handled it. He basically managed to get himself out of paying for my college education or having anything to do with it. When I graduated, he didn't even tell me congratulations or even give me a card or whatever. I feel like I need to bring this up at some point but I'm afraid (the fact that his choices held me back).

The thing is, it's harder for me now than it was then (18-early 20s) to feel this bright-eyed motivation or hopefulness. I could have done internships back then.

Thinking of it the way you stated does help. The thing is though, he was privileged. Only child, born into the lap of luxury. His parents paid for his education and he got whatever he wanted. He can't relate at all to my life. And like you stated, he did make things actively harder for me. This is something I don't think he grasps at all.

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