Why is it hard to build friendships the older you get

An excerpt from my best man speech at my friend's wedding

..My father once told me to cherish the friendships I made in school as It was unlikely to ever find friends of similar quality ever again.

It didn't make much sense to me at the time but as I grow older it becomes more and more apparent. What forges great friendships is time. Time put into the relationship and time spent together is what distinguishes them between acquaintances, friends and great friends. And as adults time is what everyone lacks. Between work, hobbies, exercise, relationships, family and friends it’s difficult to forge new friendships on par with what we have

I’ve spent thousands of hours with this man. Hundreds of hours of playing tag on the playground. Dozens of hours spent in the principals office. We’ve even spent a weekend cutting the grass on the field with scissors. Thousands of hours of just sitting around being bored. Playing games. Drinking. Chasing girls. Fighting. Arguing. Laughing. I’ve been incredibly lucky to have someone such as "Groom" to spend my life with.

And then came "SO".

I’m just kidding!

I’ve never seen "Groom" as happy as he is today and as his friend that’s all the reassurance I need, to know that these two were meant for each other. Marriage is about teamwork, it’s about your love for each other, your ability to go to the ends of the earth for one another and "SO" you’ve pick yourself a good one. "Groom"’s undying love, loyalty and devotion to his family and friends are all qualities anyone can wish for in a spouse....

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