I don’t actually talk about my sexuality often irl. Only a handful of people even know (aside from my husband), and they only found out via relevant conversation. I am not one who just openly tells people in my life about my sexuality.

So I know I don’t feel sexual attraction at all. I, for quite a long time, questioned whether I was ace or demi, especially because I’m married. It took a while but I learned that I don’t feel that sexual attraction, and I don’t have a problem with sex. For me, it’s just that it’s time I get to spend with my husband. Making him happy, makes me happy, and I enjoy the closeness during that time. Also, I’ve only ever had this type of relationship with my husband. Before even meeting him (and when we first started dating), I wanted no part in sex. I wasn’t repulsed, but indifferent and not interested in the slightest.

I know it’s different for everybody, and not every sex-favorable ace will have the same answer as me, this is just my situation.