Hate my ex wBPD. Must suppress urge to get back at them. After discovering the foundation of the relationship was itself a lie along with all the other lies... it really feels like a gut punch.

Man, thanks for this. My pwBPD was a Waif type (with a martyr complex the size of Russia), so her brand of "Literally Hitler" people from her past were more like a "Tragically Mislead Fools Who Tragically Hurt Her with their Callously Tragic Behavior."

In my story, my friend had essentially made up an entirely new persona just before I met her, and I now think I had become a steady cornerstone for her brooding-artistic-victim identity. After two years, her sob stories stopped adding up. I snooped on her Facebook timeline and found out that she used to be a totally different person with a history of going by different names. I called her on it and said I needed to leave for a while. Her first reaction was nonchalant dismissal. Then it switched to "YOU don't need a break from ME. I need a break from YOU!"

I found out she later wrote a poem and posted it on her website that pretty much boiled down to "I never did any of those things, and I wouldn't have been mean like that to you because you deserve better than that, woe is me."

NOW her version of events seems to be, "We both did wrong things, so we're both to blame, how sad." Yep. Seems rational.

I can only imagine who I am to her friends now. Probably yet another fallen tragedy case like she ones used to tell me about that she "just couldn't save." Ugh.

Anyway, thanks for putting it all into perspective.

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