Is he moving too quickly or am I just traumatized?

Here's the thing... I can say where was my self confidence and worth when I was in my abusive relationship...but no one else can say that. It's not really for them to make judgement on something they know nothing about. Abusers are great at manipulation.

If someone said that to me, I'd reply. "Luckily I found it eventually so I could stop going for assholes." And stand up and walk out.

Trust your gut. You've likely ignored it before (I have) and gotten into situations because you did (seriously... been there).

You really need to trust yourself. Trust your feelings. He's coming on strong, love bombing almost, not fully waiting for consent and I get it that was fine because you were fine..but then he made you feel less than both days with the grandma comment and the guarded comment. He's trying to disarm you.. and love bomb you.. those are red flags to me.

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