i’ve been through this, but i was the child in this situation (although it was my stepmum, who was in my life for about 6/7 years, but she had had another child with my mum). she hadn’t told my dad, but was confiding in my uncle about what she was going through, and all of a sudden one christmas she had finally had enough and moved out with her girlfriend. according to my uncle she continued to stay because she didn’t want me to have a broken home again.

i’m saying this so you have a child point of view. you can’t stay with him, as much as you love him - if he finds someone of the opposite sex who he can imagine starting his life again with, would you rather not be with him or for him to leave and do it abruptly? of course this may not happen for you, but just in case.

if you truly love your husband, you will still be in touch with him, channel your love for him into support. this is not something he’s chosen, and although it may hurt you, you need to be there for him.

and be there for your children. when it happened to me i was so angry, i was about 11 years old and i couldn’t believe my stepmum would hurt my family like that. and i believe i only had those thoughts because i has no idea what was going on, in my head my stepmum just left us one christmas. try and let your children know what’s happening, prepare them, because even if they’re understanding about being lgbt - it’s gonna hurt them.

i have a good relationship with my stepmum to this day, but for a lot of time i held on to a lot of anger and sadness - please don’t pretend to your children that everything is fine, let them know.