He said, she said

Also you say he cut you off. This is typically narc behavior "silent treatment"

They so this as a self defense mechanism to protect themselves similar to how we push people away when we sense abandonment. This is how I figure he feels betrayed somehow. Usually it's a day. The length of time usually correlates to how betrayed they feel.

YOU have to initiate contact. Text him, call him, Skype him. However you guys communicate. You have to remember they close themselves off, and pride prevents them from reaching out. Unless it's a Hoover, and not all narcs Hoover

Just remember if you want this to work when he pulls away you have to push sometimes, I'm sure he does the same.

A BPD+Narc relationship is hard but a very rewarding one with high's higher than you will ever feel in a relationship EVER. It's work though!

Yes this is abuse, they do not mean to do it. But keep in mind WE as BPD abuse as well, and we do not mean to do it. It's just the nature of the beast.

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