Health / Sex Ed should probably seek to teach men not to assess themselves based on ability to attract a mate

I agree that there should be more discussion regarding male identity and what we see as 'masculinity', but I don't think sex ed or health education would be the best vehicle for this.

Sex Ed deals with gender fluidity, orientation, how to have sex safely, harassment, birth control, and teenage pregnancy. That's a lot to cover for an allotted amount of time. I doubt schools would be effective at deprogramming 'female validation' from the male identity that society has created for such a long time. Especially since the kids are often being taught this by their parents.

Instead I believe it should be a front-and-centered open social discussion. Things like the Good Men Project attempt to cover this but they're extremely small and don't necessarily give the best advice. Women have done this successfully since the rise of the feminism movement, in redefining what exactly 'feminity' is. Men instead skipped that entire dialogue. But we should be having it. Everything from what it 'means to be a man', 'it's ok to not be in a relationship', and 'how to be better at dating' should be in that.

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