hey, I'll get right down to it. We've been long distance for about 3 years, we save up money then I go to hers or she comes to my place. she has anger issues from her aspergers, bpd, bipolar [aspergers isn't as bad as most people who have it, other stuff is] we skype from the moment I wake up [11am] until I go to work [5pm] then when I get home [0:30] I play on steam for an hour or two then call her before I go to bed]. when I have days off I play on steam with friends for around 5 hours then the rest of my day is spent on skype with her. now here's the problem, occasionally she will snap when I am typing to one of my friends and ask why I'm not speaking to her, tell me to speak more etc. etc. then we will argue, the call will end up going down [dependant on whoever gets more annoyed first] then I will do my own thing until she eventually messages me back raging, trying to call me so she can shout at me, etc. then after an hour or two she will message me back apologizing then call me, telling me she's self harmed by hitting her head against the wall, trying to guilt me into having sympathy for her. this happens about twice a month and it hasn't gotten better, we see each other every two months for two weeks at a time. is it worth me putting in the effort? she is unemployed, I can't afford to have her here as well as myself when I'm barely getting by on my own. she has also hit me a few times in person when I refuse to talk to her because I ignore her, I have not struck her once. she will bring up things from her past that has happened several years ago sometimes when I get the best of her in an argument, then cry and say things like "you always have to be in the right don't you? it's never your fault."