Help, I'm freaking out.

well, I was at one job for 4.5 years, another for 5 years, so those are some good tenures. In my first marketing assistant job, the director hired me and then quickly announced she was -- surprise! -- pregnant, which made it oh so convenient for her to abusively coerce me to quit because she was going to put me on probation for allegedly misspelling a name, THE DAY SHE GOT BACK from maternity leave. Then, in the 5 year job, a similar thing happened -- a new female lawyer decided to cover her ass by saying that I hadn't sent out a particular package like she had asked -- AND I NEVER SENT OUT PACKAGES, EVER, IN THE ENTIRE TIME I WAS THERE -- and she was um dilly dallying with the owner, so guess who was fired? In the 4.5 year job, the company restructured with new people who were changing all policies, and one of the new people simply HATED me, I have no idea why, but he did manage to have a meeting with me in his office where he yelled at me, berated me, made me cry, told me that everyone hated me, that I was "too old to not know what else I wanted to do career-wise", basically just went nuts on me, then I was laid off. More recently, I had a job I loved, and there truly was company restructuring and I wasn't the only person laid off, in fact, some were just fired outright, people who I had thought were doing a great job. So honestly, I have an inkling that my personality, or something else about me, really draws out aggression or competitiveness in certain types of people. I tend to be overly eager-to-please, which I know rubs some people the wrong way, comes across as really irritating. But it's difficult to know how to change that when, you know, I KNOW THAT I NEED TO PLEASE MY HIGHER UPS IN ORDER TO AVOID BEING LET GO (AGAIN!!!). It feels like I can't win.

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