Help me (M 22) with inexperienced partner (F 20)

Ide like to start this with the fact that i am a virgin so take what i say with a grain of salt. I have a really hard time getting comftorble with intimacy and i tend to like laugh and giggle when I am uncomftorble/ feel vulnerable. I dont know how long you guys have been dating but you should keep in mind that if this was her first time having sex, its her first time being that vulnerable with a person. Maybe try to take things getting into it really slow so she has time to not feel so weird about it. I had a problem similar to this with making out where i never enjoyed it because it was new therefore it felt weird. Let her tell you when shes ready to stop kissing and move onto other stuff. Let her make the move because she will feel 100 times less scared/self conciuse if she made the decision. Also, shes only ever had sex 2 times and your expecting her to learn already? Calm down or shes going to get overwhelmed. Maybe have boring or less enjoyable sex for you a couple more times until she gets past the whole "weirded out" "there someone dick inside of me" phase. Then, when the idea of it isnt so stressful for her, she might come to you on what she likes and then you can say what you like. Also, you could just ask her what she likes and then tell her what you like after (but i would keep if pretty tame if your into harder stuff so you dont freak her out now). And i personally dont think the giggling is that shes uncomftorble with you more that shes uncomftorble with being that vulnerable to anyone which has nothing to do with you. The only way shes gonna get past that is if you let her be in thqat position withought worrying more so she gets more used to and comftorble with it. In conclusion, sorry man sex is gonna suck for a while (not your fault) but thats what its like dating a virgin. Its neither of your faults but you shouldnt put too much pressure on her for a while. Also side notw, maybe spend a lot of time just on like pleasuring her and shell get past the whole getting weirded out thing faster. Just an idea

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