okay, but shes not lying....youre lightskinned, non-black and will always hold structural power over her (institutionally and interpersonally). come to grips with your privilege and this will be so much easier on your friendship. id get tired of hearing that shit too. she does have it worse, and sometimes it takes up a lot of space to be concerned with people who literally are actively oppressing you whether they want to recognize it or not. im not gonna sugarcoat this for you, OP. start unpacking this shit as anti-blackness and colorism dont just effect black folks, it effects all darker skinned POC and maybe you can see they ways you may have been ignorant of your privilege towards people of your own ethnicity. its not Oppression Olympics, she understand the dynamics of her oppression and how you benefit from it and she wont let you forget it.....as she shouldnt, considering you all are intimate (roommate). im sorry if this is hard to hear, and i say this with love. be well.