Help my understand my gf's cheating.

I see my own therapist to learn about her disorder. His current assessment has been that she is abusive, as most borderlines are... but that it has not affected me..yet. Currently she has moved out to live on her own so she can seek treatment. The treatment of choice has something like an 83% success rate... a lot of the patients no longer meet the criteria for BPD after going through it. I am willing to support her through it. It's the shit in the meantime..her blaming me for everything and not realizing that no normal person would just feel passionately aroused with a woman who is so violent and self-sabotaging. If she doesn't get better I am out.

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