I feel fully secure with my spouse. Sometimes I question if my decision to marry someone that I feel fully secure with and safe with is better than me marrying someone that I am in love with completely. I do love my spouse but I can’t always say that I am in love with them. I also can’t say that I love them the way I love the other person. I am very afraid of what you lose when you love someone and I’m afraid of the power that you give someone when you love them. My spouse doesn’t have that kind of power over me. I have the ability to leave. I have the ability to rationally think and not just emotionally think, the other person would have the power to hurt me if I had chosen to be with them