Help with coping from grief while pregnant

I'm so sorry for your losses. Pregnancy is a terrible time to go through trauma. I was diagnosed with cancer when I was 16 weeks pregnant. Luckily the surgery that discovered it also "cured" it, so I didn't need any additional treatment at this time. Still I'll need to be monitored for a recurrence basically forever.

I worry/worried too that my insane levels of grief and fear hurt my baby but my doctor has reassured me that feeling sad will *not* affect his development. Anxiety can, however, affect you because it raises your blood pressure and produces cortisol. I would recommend 1) going to a therapist because talking it out feels so good to get that shit off your chest to an impartial listener, 2) eat foods that bring you a lot of pleasure, 3) watch movies or TV that you know never fail to make you laugh. I also got a few massages and took a trip out of town that helped wonders.

Also there are anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications that are safe to take during pregnancy. You should talk to your doctor about how you're feeling and s/he can help you work out a plan.

I hope you're feeling better soon. Your baby will be OK and so will you!

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