It's great this helped you. I can read these rules now and understand they work well in healthy, mutually respectful relationships. They can't/won't work in imbalanced, power driven abusive ones.

These were used as tools to do me harm. Narcissists in my life gave me these "rules" and as I worked hard to follow these "rules," they used them against me as part of their religious control, to shame and blame me and to keep me "in line.". I was constantly rebuked for "breaking them" yet they were never held accountable to follow them. I was so beaten down and unaware I was involved with "family" who were malignant narcissists and bent on keeping my brain confused and my parathetic nervous system on edge, so I'd be reactive to their attacks against me. I've come to understand not everything works for every person or situation.