Similar situation here. When I came out 5+ years ago, I didn't know a single gay guy and all my straight friends were literally long-haired metal-heads that hated fags (sorry to say that, but at the time they used it so frequently and so derogatorily that I was really starting to become very depressed about what they would think of me if I came out). Until one of my (girl) friends outed me to everyone, which I was pretty pissed about. But as it turned out, once they all found out, they were super cool and had a million questions. And they apologized for saying "fag" so much; as it turns out most of them are a little bi-curious in private but feel the need to be macho in public. I digress.

As accepting as they've become (and I've done some naughty things with a few of my closest friends); I've had a 3-year relationship with my best friend, who is now getting married to his girlfriend and I'm the godfather of their 10-month old son. Even as a write this, I've had another fling going on for about 6 months with my other best friend. But it's screwed up because it's always just "friends with benefits" and "don't tell anyone" and it's getting old.

So here I am, like you, I can tell my best friends anything in the world. But they don't know how to give good advice other than "We need to find you a man. Let's to a gay club one day, and I'll even pretend to be gay." Yeah, thanks a lot, that really helps. (Sorry, the whole club scene is just not my thing; I hate the music and the atmosphere, and if that's where I'm supposed gay friends at, I don't think I want that kind of friend who wants to go there.)

So is there like a 1-800-FIND-GAY or something where you find gay guys in your area when you need new friends? I don't know. Craigslist is super freaky and I don't think I'm down for that, and the other sites are just superficial. Did we just become friends?