I can try to relate to you as best as I can. I'm mixed and I've always battled racial barriers throughout my life. I'm too black for the white folks, but I'm too white for the black folks. Many people group together based on race because they feel most comfortable in that group. I never had really felt comfortable or accepted into any racial group.

At the end of the day, I try to make friends not based on racial lines. In college, I joined an all asian club and really got myself out of my comfort zone. I now have close friends who are international students from Asia. We have entirely different backgrounds, but we get along great. I have friends from the greek community even though the community is almost exclusively white. They never saw my skin color as an issue. Sure I sometimes feel out of place being the only black person in the room, but they do their best to make me feel accepted. If any of their friends are racist to me, they are sure to stand up for me. I joined the black student union for a bit and I connected with some black students. I met a black girl from Switzerland and another guy from inglewood that I really hit it off with. How I see it is that the default way to fit in is through race. As demonstrated by you, me, and plenty of other people out there, there is incredible diversity that exists within any race. I'm sure there are plenty of white people that you can get along with and similarly POC you can get along with. I know in certain communities it can be harder and the diversity within racial groups isn't as large as other areas, but it can happen. I think your first problem is you outright say you don't have a lot in common with other "white people". I mean if you exist, there's surely other white people out there just like you. It's the same way minorities try to differentiate themselves from their background because they grew up "white". Embrace who you are and make friends you get a long with. I know by default some white, black, hispanic, asian or whatever race won't accept me based on how I look, but I don't let it get to me. Some racial groups are harding for me to make friends with, but I do my best not to judge a book by its cover. I don't want people not befriending me because whatever preconceived stereotypes they have on my background based on my looks. It's the same you don't want people to assume you don't have an incredibly diverse interests even though you're white.