I kind of get it, especially if you were talking to someone for a good few weeks or you even met them in person, and seemed to be getting along great, it can really hurt. I do think ghosting is really shitty dating etiquette in those cases and I wish we could somehow discourage it more.

I would never encourage chasing or continuing to message a ghoster though. They've already decided they want to cease contact, you messaging them for any reason isn't going to change their mind.

Where I think a lot of us go wrong is on those occasions where a guy who ghosted us comes back later and starts "breadcrumbing" (google it, this post is long enough). At this point, I don't accept that. If you've already ghosted me once and it bothered me when you did, you're not getting a second shot.