The history of abuse you went thru as a child gets no more sympathy the moment you harm a child.

noticed this with my dad. he was (and tbh he still is) verbally/emotionally/physically abusive toward me. his dad did that to him growing up and he admires his dad for doing that to him because he thought it made him a better person (surprise...it didn't. he's pretty a miserable human being. it's well-deserved misery imo). i thought what he did was normal growing up until i just spoke about it casually to my group of friends when i was around 9 years old and they looked at me both confused and incredibly worried for me. i think that learning about what behaviors are abusive early on in life kinda helps you establish that it isn't right. if no one tells you that you're being wronged then you'd really have no way of knowing that what you're enduring is abuse even if people are telling you that the abuse you're suffering is crystal clear. because a lot of times it isn't for victims (at least in me and especially my dad's case).

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