I'm going through this situation now. It is hands down the best relationship I've ever been in. Miles above any connection I've ever had. She's the kindest warmest person I've ever met and I know she loves me deeply. That's why I'm so conflicted about what I'm feeling. I feel like there's just no desire, no passion, she doesn't crave sex and could go months if not for the sense of duty eventually kicking in. We started out okay The first two years we had frequent sex and then it just dwindled to twice a month. She says work has her stressed, she doesn't feel sexy, is always tired, etc. Calls me a perv sometimes because of my higher drive. I'm older so I keep telling myself that maybe it's just time for sex to not be so important in a relationship. Would I trade a supportive partner who truly brings me happiness for a sexually charged relationship that maybe has dysfunction in other areas? I was in a ten year marriage with a verbally abusive controlling and possibly BPD woman who was undeniably the most magical sex I ever experienced. But it almost destroyed me. I've thought about making a post here because I'm curious what feedback I'd get.