Honestly, how do you know the person you’re dating is the one you should marry?

You don’t actually “know,” you just make a choice and hope it works out. Seriously.

I broke up with my husband before we got married. I didn’t feel butterflies or the limitless passion that I was told I should feel and I wasn’t sure if I was ready for something longtime. But then when I imagined us making a life together based on our shared values and goals, it looked pretty good. It just seemed like a good idea and it was. It took effort on both our parts to make it this far, 14 years, but I honestly can’t say we have significant problems because we don’t. It’s not the most romantic setup but romance comes and goes. During the times when romance is gone (or just might be hiding), what are you left with, hmm? Food for thought.

If your relationship is complicated now, just wait until you add in-laws, kids, finances, home ownership, moves, changes in health, aging, etc etc.

/r/Marriage Thread