I’ve been in committed relationships and have experienced causal relationships in-between. Everyone experiences things differently, so take what resonates and what doesn’t! There are two lessons I learnt from my casual experiences: all sex is NOT good sex, and that self exploration does not require another person. Half the time I didn’t intentionally get myself involved in those scenarios but was mislead into thinking something was there when it was not. Even in times when I knew 1) there was no possibility of a relationship 2) they weren’t a good partner for me, I still developed some type of attachment to them. I think some people are cut out for casual sex and others aren’t, which can be a tough lesson to learn. Honestly, after all was said and done I often felt degraded and sexually unsatisfied. You didn’t specify your gender but as a heterosexual woman, the sex sucked 99% of the time because the guy didn’t care about my pleasure AT ALL. Sometimes I felt like a blow up doll, they weren’t having sex with me but rather using my body parts to get off. Not to mention most hook ups occurred when they were drunk and/or bored at some obscure hour with zero notice and consideration for my schedule. Not only did I leave feeling unsatisfied I usually left feeling sad, especially when my friends started getting into relationships. My partners only acknowledged my existence when they wanted something (my body) and wouldn’t care if got hit by a bus right after leaving their place. Also let’s not forget about the potential for STIs and unplanned pregnancy, which is a very real possibility. Looking back on things, those experiences were corrosive to my self-esteem and just generally sucked.