I hope this isn’t preference shaming but the way he worded it was neckbeard-y

The virgin "preference" is 100% feelings of inadequacy and paranoia. He imagines that a virgin will not have any baseline of comparison or be able to judge him based on prior experience, thus assuring his ego stays intact.

Losing your virginity, ideally with someone you care about, and who cares about you, can be super amazing and intense and special, but it can also be awkward and anxious and emotional...or losing it can be complete shit and traumatizing, or just meh, or anywhere inbetween, that is the dice.

This may be white-knighting, or bad-woman-writing, or playing into the "purity culture/virginity worship" or whatever, but I think the dudes who fantasize about "leading girls into womanhood" (or the reverse, older women who will "make a man out of" young boys), like, steal that potential, just for the gratification of their fetish.

I know American Beauty isn't the most morally upstanding movie, but that was Lester's redemption. Despite all his lolita fantasies, she's not the seductress he imagined, and he wasn't going to let this girl's first time be with a his creepy-ass-old-self.

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