Edit: also wanted to say, I mainly started getting all anxious in the first place because I’ve been dealing with feeling super guilty for not getting the police involved, because who knows if he’s going to go on and do this to other girls in this other country. So it’s not even entirely about me; he and I had a great sex life this entire time despite what happened to me, and the only time it’s ever been effected was after directly talking about rape. So I can’t help but feel it’s not reasonable for him to feel like it’s effecting him when our sex life would’ve been fine moving forward as long as we don’t talk about the subject beforehand- it’s obvious that that wouldn’t get me in the mood.