Ya, she maybe unhappy with how she thinks your trying to please her with all your self growth and she’s giving up on you. Your post made it seem like you care about her weight for the wrong reasons. Speaking from experience, my mom has a story about how my dad who was fit and took care of himself and his physical body, once let on that she was a little overweight.

He died at 44 from a heart attack, and there’s evidence my brothers girlfriend found that there was a guy mom probably emotionally cheated on him with and probably actually cheated on.

All to say if you want to approach her about her weight you may live a short life that is unfulfilled and sad.

I don’t think forcing change on someone by expressing your dissatisfaction with their appearance will ever go well, she’s definitely going though a hard time as well, so yah going with a different motive is what you need. Your motive should I want to spend time with you can we go for a walk together or get some pizza? Or I want to listen to you and what you need let’s get some food, wanna do bad food or good food? Or just gain the weight with her and let her know you love her so much you will lose weight when we feel like it. Then ask her if she wants anything tasty.

But all in all be genuinely in love with who she is or don’t and let someone else love this woman for who she is. But definitely don’t go back and forth on thinking about approaching her about her calorie consumption.

Honestly the fact that you asked about this makes me feel like you need to do some soul searching yourself and break up with her because your not treating her well enough and let her know I have to learn how to attract woman as awesome as her more effectively that’s why I’m breaking up with you, be honest when your ready to say it.

Then learn how to attract woman, there’s lots of help on YouTube. Then come back to her when you know more. Motives man