How are you supposed to approach a girl in a loud club?

I'm really a very friendly and open person in real life and I'm open to strangers approaching me, like I'm not immediately an "ew dont talk to me" person even if they aren't a 9/10 stud lol. But I'm never at a club to get hit on or be subjected to lines and chat, I'm there to dance and have fun.

So if I think about what's worked with me is really just when the guys is having fun dancing with me in the moment and not trying to hit on me. I'm not much of a freak so the second a they try to touch in me anyway I'm gone.

There's a big difference between a guy taking a shot at hitting on you based on nothing but your looks and a guy having a genuine human interaction with you. Every woman I know is more receptive to that over lines.

Think of it as the difference between a guy sending out dozens of low effort messages to "play the numbers" to get laid vs messaging you something that actually shows interest in who we are. Maybe you'll "waste" your time dancing with me for a few songs but the type of the guys who view having fun and meeting new people without a number/sex as a "waste of time" are the kind of socially inept douchebags who can't get laid in the first place and need all kinds of absurd strategies to meet women.

Lots of women are just going to have zero interest though but I know me and my girlfriends are receptive to fun and respectful guys who are being cool and not acting like creeps to get laid.

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