You're going to have a hard time dating outside of your cultural group. That is true everywhere in the world, for every cultural group. Right or wrong, 90% of couples in Canada where I live (which is similar to the US as far as this goes) are white people dating white people, asian/asian, black/black etc. I wouldn't consider myself overly racist, nor would I consider the vast majority of my friends racist. The fact of the matter is, to start dating someone you have to have something in common with them. There is a huge cultural gap between India and North America. Your first group of friends over here are likely going to be members of your ethnic community initially, so you will be most exposed to other people from your same ethnic community.

I guess the problem is that the divide is still there by appearance/stereotype alone, regardless of "cultural" group and that makes things difficult. I'm of Indian heritage, but born & raised in Australia. I'm not religious (neither is my family), i don't wear a turban or anything, I do not have an accent, I'm just a brown dude. But the problem is, I'm a brown guy in a white country. I have the same "culture" they do, i grew up the same way they did, i love my heavy metal and a sesh with the boys. I'm a legit Aussie, I was even born in rural Australia. But I'm never viewed as a local, always seen as an outsider especially to females.

The assumption is always that I'm foreign & therefore different/awkward. In school girls only knew me as "the Indian kid". No girl ever wanted to be with the brown guy, or to give me a chance. Same in college. Same after college. Same in the workforce. I have plenty of friends and they all got girls, but none were ever interested in me. I never got a second glance. I've never been jokingly flirted with by a waitress or bartender. No female in public has ever showed any interest in me. At least over here, white girls just don't find brown guys attractive.

Everyone else as you said pairs up with people from their own "culture" - but i don't know any other Indian people, and I have nothing in common with them anyway. White girls dismiss me on the assumption I'm some Indian guy, and even if I did find an Indian girl we would have no common ground for a relationship. It's hard.