How I became a feminist victim

If I was groped by someone, I didn’t give them a scathing look or slap away their hand, and I certainly didn’t tell them to fuck off. Instead, I was scared into inaction. How could I countenance such a violation? How could I possibly process something so awful?

This is why the threat which feminism poses to relations between the sexes cannot be overstated and must not be underestimated. It is creating an atmosphere wherein it is a man's job to be psychic but not a woman's job to judge men's intentions fairly or accurately. A man must now be a student of (what might once have been) abnormal female psychology in order to know if she is agreeing to his clumsy, drunken idea of flirtation, or is simply "paralyzed" having already decided she has been victimized and is probably going to be scarred for life. And this is reasonable on her part? Even if she has no grasp of his psychology? Even if her reaction is based on the assumption that he is far, far more dangerous than he is?

This phenomenon of "freezing in fear" when dealing with men as soon as they cross your boundaries is entirely constructed by feminism and used by feminists to justify the criminalization of male sexuality and the manufacture of moral panics such as the "rape culture" narrative. And what's worse is that a woman really could be silently and even passively consenting—she might have even initiated the encounter—yet because of this one-sided burden placed only on heterosexual men, she can later pretend she didn't consent and was only "paralyzed" by mortal terror. Unless he can say she said "yes" (which he can't), he is at extreme risk of being branded a rapist!

I can't begin to tell you how bizarre this seems to me as a gay man. I can't imagine needing to ask "May I touch your butt" or having to say "I would like you to rub my crotch please" in order for contact between me and another man to not be considered "assault". I would probably actually go further than a lot of you would be comfortable going in describing just how much unsolicited contact reasonable adults of both sexes should be able and expected to cope with without crying assault—not because there aren't people who genuinely make shitty judgment calls in assuming a woman might like being approached or touched, but because making all such bad calls into criminal offenses destroys adults' ability to even flirt legally, and renders the concept of victimization utterly trivial if not meaningless.

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