i don't have advice, but I totally empathize with you! I have had that same exact situation, where someone knows what they are doing but try to act like they don't, and basically tee's you up to dig your own grave.

anecdotal but i've been at odds with a dear friend, and one of our mutual friends asked me if I had spoken to that friend lately - I immediately got super embarrassed, and explained no we haven't talked. When I was meet with radio silence & a blank stare from "friend", I started explaining and then over-explaining the situation and ended up crying (on a hayride, cringe. thankful for sunglasses). the "friend" that brought it up never said anything, just let me hang there to dry while I figured if I gave just one more piece of information, she'd have to understand my side of the story. it was so awkward & honestly I think a bit differently about that person now, letting me cry in front of them while they just looked on like "oops..."

I hope you know that even though you may have over shared, you are a beautiful person and whoever set you up to make you feel bad about being sensitive/emotional has their own issues! I think anyone who tries to tear someone down for something they're honest about is evil