How has being married to the person who took your virginity been treating you?

I'm not married but engaged to the only person I've slept with. I'm agnostic and socially liberal in most other aspects but I have a tendency to worry so concerns about STDs and unplanned pregnancy and how those would impact my longterm life plans kept me from sleeping around.

He wasn't my first boyfriend so I've had the 'freedom' to date around. When I was single I used to crave the closeness and happy comfort of a LTR and now that I have it I look back at my 'single and dating' period with exasperated amusement at how unfulfilling those short relationships were. And seeing what other people who are still in that phase go through...yikes, I'm glad I'm out of the dating pool. It seems like 99% of people are 10 kinds of crazy and I just happened to find a good, stable guy so I have nothing to be jealous of.

It also helps that of everyone I dated, he's the one whose pants I most wanted to jump into at first sight. So I dove in eagerly but cautiously, and turns out the rest of him was as good as his looks.

Sometimes I have fleeting thoughts about what other guys might be like in bed, but then I seriously think, "What are the chances their cock is as nice, that they can last as long, that they're as eager to please me, and if something goes horribly wrong (eg surprise pregnancy) they'd be supportive?" Realistically the chances are pretty low, especially if the emotional connection isn't there so that he'd care about me, so I don't feel like I'm missing out.

btw, I know virgin shaming is a big reason guys keep their virginity on the down low, but it exists among girls too. Not from my friends, because my friends aren't shitty, but I've found that some girls who have been around a bit are pretty derisive towards you if you're a virgin.

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