I plan the topics ahead

In my world that is kinda suicide. I don't know if you realize it, but what you've done is decided to ignore her and just do you. Especially since I suspect the topics you choose aren't the two of you.

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In my world

Dating is engaging in her. It's going up close and personal and then it ping pong's back and forth ... At least for me. I struggled for a good chunk of my 20s until I realized that you need to drop the small talk and go up close. Discuss stuff that you or she is passionate about. Have opinions that are your own (and don't necessarily align with hers) and stuff like that.

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It's not that women love with their ears. It's about showing that you can be trusted to contribute something positive to her life and the life of future kids.

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But this is my world where I maybe aren't all that extrovert, but I'm creative and impulsive, so I can pull the above off.

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In your world?

If you can't pull that off then that means you probably excel at doing as told as school/work and at your prime qualification is to parrot stuff, doesn't it?

Anyways if this really is the case then you need to steer topics to something that brands you as stable, reliable, conscientious and hardworking and how that is good seen in the context of the two of you.

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No matter what .. Topics can be all sorts off course, but ultimately it has to lead back to you and her. That is all that matter, you and her! .. How you interact, what good (and bad) you bring to each other and why you two might be a good idea. If nothing else you can always suggest that the sex will be fun!

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And yeah, I know .. The above isn't particularly structured, but I suspect it might be useful none the less .. I hope so

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Cheers!