how can you see the girl you love with another guy everyday without getting hurt inside

Ok, although I'm a lot younger than you, I totally know where you are. First year in college I met this girl, and we really quickly became great friends. Let's call her Lisa. We hang out with each other at school and talked a lot on Facebook and so on, when at home. She too got, back with her ex; around the time I'd fallen in love with her. I hadn't told her, cause I didn't feel the same interest back.

So I said to myself, I'd wait it out, cause it was obvious that their second try wouldn't last. But even though they were together, she'd still hang with me at school, and we'd talk a lot. Also about him, where I'd give her tips and advice, even if I really didn't want to. So I was basically friend-zoned, but didn't see it. She had me wrapped around her finger.

Fast forward two years. She'd broken up with her boyfriend after a year again, and I was still in love with her, even though I knew I had to move on. Cause she still didn't show that kind of interest. But how could I move on? I really liked her. One weekend, at a party, I decided to not spend the evening with her, and instead be with another group of people. I met another girl and hung out with her for the rest of the night just talking, just like friends.

Now apparently Lisa found it odd that I gave my attention to someone else. I also didn't say more than "hey, having fun?" the first time we walked past each other.

The next day, I found out she's pissed at me, and her friends tell me to should go talk to her. Why? Cause she felt like I'd ignored her. I said I'm sorry, I'm not going to go talk to her, if she's upset; I didn't do anything wrong or rude. So her friends said they understood, and they'd ask her to get in touch with me.

She never did. And honestly, right now, I couldn't care less. She getting mad at me, made me realize she wasn't the one for me. If I look at myself one year back, I would be devastated, and would call her right after I knew she was angry. The difference is that just prior to the party my best friends, for the first time, said to me that she had me wrapped around her finger, and it was embarrassing. So this became my "excuse" to move on. And at parties now, I see her looking at me, but she doesn't have the confidence to come up and talk.

Sorry for making it so long, but that's my answer. Hope it can help you out someway. You have to move on, no matter how much you like her. I loved her, and was able to - and I know you'll be too.

It will be better!

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