How can I help my parent make peace with my life choices that she doesn’t agree with?

I'm a parent of adult children and I never had any hard and fast expectations that they be anything but who they were. Maybe just be your authentic self around your mother and let her be in charge of how she reacts to you. And frankly your feeling that you need to help her navigate the next phase of your relationship sounds a little condescending to my 75 year old ears. My kids and I were always able to laugh at each other and ourselves when any of us got as wound up as you seem to be about what we feared might happen and made exhaustive plans to deal with preemptively. Usually everything resolved itself naturally if we just relaxed and communicated casually in ongoing conversations as the spirit moved us. All families have their own ways of interacting of course and you know yours better than me but I do hope you will pay you mother the respect of assuming she is as capable of understanding and respecting you as you are of doing the same for her. Good luck.

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