Have you tried being less subtle? I dated this one woman who was wild and I could not get enough of her. She knew how to press my buttons. For example, we'd go to the grocery store and she'd buy some bananas. We'd come back, I'd unassumingly put the groceries away and she'd grab a banana and start licking it, sucking it, slobbering all over it, etc. Boom, erection. Sometimes after taking a shower she'd come out of the bathroom, smile cheekily, drop her tower, turn around, spread her ass, put her towel back on and wink at me. Boom, erection. I'd be in the living room watching TV and she would suddenly call for "help" in the bedroom, I'd walk into the bedroom and see her on her knees, mouth open, tongue out, dripping with saliva. Boom, erection.

Now the last woman I dated was very different. She was subtle and not that dirty. She would walk around the house in her panties and told me I can have her whenver I want and even wake her up in the middle of the night, but she never really did it for me. There was this feeling of "oh ok, so vanilla sex is always on the table" and seeing her almost naked 24/7 created a "nudist" vibe. I figured, she feels comfortable being naked. There was no animalistic sexual tension. She didn't seed dirty thoughts into my mind.

There's a reason why porn is so alluring for men. It plays on the ultimate male fantasy - a sexually submissive woman who will do anything to please you. That's why guys from all walks of life, all ages, married, single, religious, conservative, liberal, etc, are turned on by it.

It sorta makes sense too. Men have a "conquest" mindset when it comes to sex. We want to GET the girl. Most men are naturally dominant even if society beats it out of them. The more you play to that element, the more likely you are to trigger those caveman instincts and have wild, passionate sex.

This post will probably get downvoted for the crassness but fuck it, it's honest advice.