How can I get my boyfriend to clean up after himself (dishes/clothes/etc) without seeming like a naggy girlfriend?

Everyone has their "flaws". There are certain things about a person you have to just accept and work around if you want them in your life. Them not being the absolutely perfect person for you doesn't mean they don't respect you or don't care about your feelings. It's them being them. They are called compromises.

I was a very quiet baby, a very quiet toddler, a very quiet kid, a very quiet teen, and I am STILL a very quiet adult. Getting into a relationship thinking you can just turn me into a talker isn't going to work out. If a person can't accept and work around it, it's a doomed relationship.

I am a very absent-minded person. I dunno if I am ADD or not, but it's how I am. I can walk out of the house going, "Why the fuck can I not see?" "You aren't wearing your glasses." "oh shit, thanks. That explains it." "Make sure you got your wallet too." I'm not saying, "Fuck you, I don't respect you." when I forget things. It's simply how I am. If a person can't accept and work around it, it's a doomed relationship.

In the same vein, getting into a relationship expecting the other person to magically turn into the cleaniest of freaks just doesn't happen. He values her opinion, and her, enough to jump on it when she asks, even though he doesn't give a fuck and probably doesn't even notice it.

But here's the cool part. The girl has the same shit about her that I have about me. A good relationship can work around these 'faults' as an acceptance of the person. They compliment me with those things, I compliment there things. He probably does something for her to compliment his lack of clean freak. She picks up the slack in this regard, I am sure, if it's a good relationship, he picks up the slack on something she is "flawed" in.

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